Friday, November 11, 2011

Thoughts from a Military Wife

A friend recently sent me this poem and I thought it was fitting to share it on Veteran's Day. 

Military Man's Promise
written by Megan Williams of To Love a Soldier
I cannot promise you every night of my life.
I cannot promise to be beside you for every difficult moment, every trial, and every hardship.
In truth, I can promise you that I will not be with you for most.
I will leave you at inconvenient times.
Any special date to us may be tainted with the anniversary of the death of one of my friends.
I will ask you to take over whatever life we have built together for months and years at a time.
And will then crash back into that life that you have used your sweat, your tears and your heartache to keep together, and try to take it back as I knew it before.
I will shut you out at times because it will be the best way for me to hold it together at that moment.
I will lie to you.
I will tell you I don't know things when I do.
I will not always tell you where I am going, when I will be back, or who I am with. 
I may not call you for weeks and months and you will not be able to call me.
You will ask questions that I won't answer.
You will know answers to questions that you will hope you never need.
I will share things with my brothers that you will never understand.
They will know things about me that you never will.
They will be a support to me in some things that you cannot be.
I will miss birthdays.
I will miss anniversaries.
I may need time to process things that seem natural to everyone else.
It will seem that someone - or something - will always take precedence over you.
I will uproot you and ask you to re-establish our family anywhere in the world, in any season, 
at any time - over and over again.
Sand and mud will be tracked through your halls from the boots I am too tired to take off.
I will leave you when you beg me not to. I will stand at attention while you cry beside me.
I will not turn my head and I will walk away.
I will knowingly break your heart.
And I will do it again - and again.
I cannot promise you all of me.
I cannot promise you much of anything.
But if you will have me, I can promise that as I march away from you, 
it is not without sharing your heartache.
I promise you that every time I break your heart I will be breaking mine.
Every time that I cannot answer you I will be protecting you.
Whenever you want to call and you have no number to dial, I will be wanting to do the same.
I will protect everything that we have created together with every fiber of my being 
while you do the same back at home.
I will honor you in everything - every moment that we are apart and every moment that I am with you.
I will fight harder and push further knowing that I do so for you.
And I will carry you with me in everything, until my boots once again sit just inside our door.

Being married to B the past 9 years has allowed every word of this poem to become our life.  Military life does not allow us to plan ahead, the days and nights leading up to deployments are always filled with too many emotions to process, knowing he has experienced & seen things he will never tell me, going weeks without talking when he is away, and spending countless holidays without him by my side are all things I knew when I married a military man.  I would not trade this life for anything, even with all the things a military family endures.    

On this veteran's day remember all the men & woman that have fought for our freedom.  Fly the American flag proudly and thank a soldier & their family for the sacrifice they make allowing us the freedom to live in the USA.

I had to share one video with you also that I just love.


  1. OK, your post brought tears to my eyes and sobs in my chest! Let us never forget the sacrifice of so many before, now and to come! Thank you B!! and thank you Andrea!


    My friend Megan wrote this. Please give her credit for her wonderful words. :)


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