Saturday, October 15, 2011

Pregnancy & Infant Loss Rememberance Day

Today (Saturday) is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Tonight at 7 pm women from all over the world will light a candle in remembrance of their loss and keep it lite for 1 hour. 

As most of you probably know, we have experienced at least 2 miscarriages in the last year. Read about our experience here.  I have been to a naturopathic doctor here in Alabama and she is in the process of running tests to determine what is causing me to miscarry.  We already did a hormone test and I got the results in the mail a couple of weeks ago. Even with my VERY limited medical knowledge it appears I do have some hormone imbalances.  I have a follow-up appointment with her in 2 weeks to review the results.

I think of my miscarriages on a daily basis, and I probably always will.  Some days are still rough and I find myself getting angry, sad, frustrated, jealous, and many other emotions. It is just amazing something so tiny can leave a big hole in my heart!

Random things seem to spark my emotions. I was in Target last week waiting in line at Starbucks.  I looked over at a family with two girls who were enjoying their drinks.  The mom was NOT happy and from the look on her face she was very annoyed with her girls.  Her body language was definitely saying, "I do not want to be here!"  When I see things like this it just makes me angry.  The thought I always have go through my mind is "they need to be thankful they have kids and enjoy every minute they have with them."  Don't get me wrong, I know kids can be frustrating and exhausting at times.  But when a 30 something girl like me cant seem to have kids, she does not want to see parents upset and annoyed by their kids they have been blessed with.  

There are several things I have stumbled upon in the last few weeks that relate to infant loss & miscarriage, so I wanted to share them with you.

Laura over at Splendor shared her story of Sweet Mementos she received both times she lost her babies.  See her story and learn about Threads of Love here.  She is starting Project Hope "to reach out to and minister to other moms in the moments of their greatest loss" which is a collaboration with Threads of Love.  She is taking donations of various gifts and in return advertising shops/blogs on her site for free.  For more details click here and here.



Earth Mama Angel Baby Organics is a store filled with "Gifts From Earth for Your Gift from Heaven."  Check out the website for gifts and resources. They have a Healing Heart Comfort Kit that is great for moms that have experienced loss. 

I am a strong believer that everything we do has an impact on our body & health.  If we do not take care of ourselves there is an increase in sickness, emotional issues, weight issues, fatigue, sleep problems and the list goes on and on! I can often be heard saying "you are what you eat" and lots of times I say it in a joking manor but I truly believe it.  If we eat an unhealthy diet we are going to feel unhealthy in every area of life.  God created our bodies and we should take care of them! 

Kelly the Kitchen Kop, one of first blogs I started following, is having a giveaway for Kristen's Beautiful Babies e-course.  I'm crossing my fingers I win this giveaway!  We already exercise regularly and eat a whole food diet 95% of the time, but I there are so many more things that I can learn to help my body be as healthy as possible.  For more information on the e-course and the giveaway, check it out here.  The giveaway closes Monday, so hurry on over to enter for a chance to win!

Thanks for listening!  Have a wonderful weekend.

Til' next time ya'll,


  1. Hi, I a new follower now and love you blog.
    And thank you remember me about this day.
    One only thing: I'm sometime that mom with an annoying attitude towards my kids..that happens and it doesn't mean that I'm not thankful every day, every minute, every second of my life about my kids.
    So don't be angry...
    I would be more angry if I saw a parent doing something bad like hitting a kid!

    I send you a big hug for this day to you and it is really nice to meet you!

  2. Hey Andrea! I'm commenting for 2 reasons. I was that annoyed mom today! But you know me, I am also the mom that is thankful for my little blesses children every minute of every day. I'm sitting here tonight feeling like I've wasted today because of the frustrating day we've had. And second, today was not a healthy eating day. And I am making a direct coorelation to eating healthy and your attitude. I think the two have gone hand in hand today and I wish I could start it all over again! I'll have to make better decisions tomorrow!

  3. I just found your blog through your sis-in-law Mindy (Shawn & my husband, Todd were college roomies). Just wanted to say that I completely understand your feelings of anger, hurt, jealousy...the list can be lengthy. We had a miscarriage last summer and I dealt with anger for quite awhile—at myself, God, etc. Like you, whenever I saw someone with their kids it hit a nerve and I couldn't understand why everyone else seemed to be having kids with no problem (especially when I had a friend 'accidentally' get pregnant as an unmarried woman), but I was having trouble. I don't think there is an answer to all the questions that run through one's head after losing a child, and that's okay. No matter if you didn't even have a chance to meet your baby, it is still an extremely tough loss. My best words of advice are to not put your hope in yourself, but in God. Keep your chin up, but know that it's perfectly fine to mourn as long as you need to. The hurt never completely goes away, but it does get better. Hope the future is joyful for you. Hugs.


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